“You are a mistake”, “You weren’t
planned,” “I didn’t want you”. The words sting, but they are words many people hear or have heard in their lifetime. The words may not have been as direct, maybe it was never said, but it was implied. Or maybe it was always just the feeling that you were unwanted, or unimportant. For some, one or both their parents abandoned them. Still for others they were reminded that they weren’t wanted. It is a past or present that creates a lot of hurt, resentment, and a sense that you are not of value.
Let me first explain that the pain, hurt, and suffering you experienced was NOT from God. Nor was it a tool he used to make you who you are. God does not send hurt into the lives of the people he loves to teach lessons. We live in a broken world, a world where we, as free thinking people, have choice. God is not a puppet master in the sky, choosing what to send your way. It is not a simple concept, and if you have any questions by all means reach out to me to talk. The important part of this, is that your past was a result of the choices your parents made, or other adults around you. People that were human, and flawed. People that believed the same lies they spoke to you. The key here being LIES.
The truth is the complete opposite. You were planned from the very beginning. Jeremiah 1:5 says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew/chose you, before you were born I set you apart…” These were the words the Lord spoke to Jeremiah, who was only a child, yet appointed by God to be a prophet to the nations. The words are no less true to you and to me. The word for ‘to know’ is the Hebrew word yada, which means to percieve, understand, aquire knowledge, to discern, to be (intimately) acquainted with. It can refer to our knowledge of God on a personal level, or God’s knowledge of man, as well as other forms of knowing. The Bible says, God chose you, he called you, and before you were born he knew you intimately. He knew you inside and out. He wanted you.
Let’s continue, Psalms 139:13-14, “For you created my inmost being, you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” You are fearfully and wonderfully made, these are not words that describe an accident or a mistake.
Isaiah 43:1 “But now this is what the Lord says- He who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you O Israel: Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.” God then goes on to explain the protection he offers because he loves his people. In verse four he calls them “precious and honored in my sight”. God was speaking to Isreal, his chosen people who were famous for not being able to decide if they were or were not going to follow God, my point being His love wasn’t dependant on them.
Isaiah 46:3-4″… I have upheld you since you were conceived and have carried you since birth. Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you, and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.”
Isaiah 49:15-16 ” Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget I will not forget you! See I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.”
Ephesians 2:10 “Yet we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
I could go on, and I encourage you to look into the topic for yourself. Search the Bible for words like plan and purpose, chosen and called. You will find verse after verse that shows that you are not here by accident. If you struggle with a sense of self-worth, put aside your past, and look to the one who created you. Place your identity in Him. Get to know who He is and who He says you are. Open up a Bible and look up words you are unsure of. Dig in to what God has to say. I promise it will change the way you see your life.
Now the choice is yours. You can believe your past experiences and you can choose to listen to the voices from your past. Or you can choose to start to see yourself as God sees you. You are His chosen, an intimate acquaintance, set apart, fearfully and wonderfully made, created, redeemed, called by name, He calls you His own, precious, honored, loved, protected, from conception to old age and beyond, He will sustain, carry and rescue you, you are his workmanship, ever before Him, and engraved in the palms of His hand. These scriptures barely scratch the surface, but they leave no doubt in my mind as to our being here on earth.
God does not make mistakes, He only makes masterpieces! So live your life accordingly and things will never be the same again.